Do any of these statements reflect your experience?

If your answer is "yes," these courses are designed for you.

  • At my core, I often feel lonely, unlovable and/or unworthy.

  • In my childhood, nothing was ever good enough. My parents seemed to have favorites.

  • I have struggled with chronic mental and physical health issues for most of my life.

  • I experienced emotional abuse and/or neglect in my childhood.

  • Anger was a dangerous emotion in my childhood.

  • I feel guilty about being upset with my parents. Sometimes I question if it was as bad as I remember.

  • I keep finding myself in unhealthy relationships. Deep down, I don't really trust most people.

  • I feel like my parent(s) either loved me or hated me. I was either the "good child" or the "bad child."

  • I had to be an emotional partner to my parent.

  • I believe my parent(s) may have Narcissistic, Borderline and/or Emotionally Immature traits.

How will this course help me?

The pain of our childhoods will patiently wait our entire lives, slowly and silently corrupting our hearts, lives and relationships ---if we don't heal and deal with it.

  • Empowered and Educated.

    You will understand Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorders from a clinical and personal perspective. Your empowering knowledge will help you accept, heal and understand what happened to you in your childhood and adolescence, and inform what you need to do today --to heal your trauma, and to remain healthy in your adult relationships.

  • Healed and Whole.

    Each lesson, journal, exercise and learning experience will lead you toward greater healing and wholeness by focusing on the research informed wounds children face when they are raised by parents with Narcissistic and/or Borderline traits. The focus of this course is to target the wounds of your inner child, inner parent, mind, emotions and behaviors in a manner that lovingly directs you through self, relational and body healing.

  • Strong and Connected.

    You are a survivor, and you deserve love and compassion and validation, and this course directly honors the beauty of your resilience and strength. The goal is to help you learn to harness your childhood strengths and connections to yourself ---and the world around you --by creating strong and healthy boundaries, coping and relational skills, alongside powerful nervous system/body work strategies.

Course Includes:

  • 74 Lessons

    Your transforming online course includes a total of 74 lessons. Each lesson has been designed to help you become a master of your own healing from your childhood relational trauma. You will learn to how to identify Narcissistic, Borderline, Emotionally Immature and toxic types of parents, as well as develop your own healing toolbox to target your attachment style and wounds, nervous system, inner child and reparenting needs. In addition you will learn how to create your own pathway to identity development, boundary setting, self awareness and relational patterns, and how to navigate the complex nature of each relationship in your life, while also living with symptoms of your own childhood trauma.

  • 30 Videos

    Each of the 30 videos included in the course are designed to gently support you through the course, much like if we were sitting together and working on healing your childhood story. Your transformation is our focus, and it starts with you feeling safe, seen and heard, in short, validated. For so many of us, we've never felt understood or even been able to tell our stories, because of our shame, embarrassment and inner child wounds, but also because historically it has not been acceptable to be honest about hurtful parents. We are just supposed to be grateful that they provided for us. But providing for children is a parent's job. Unfortunately, too many of us were left alone and unseen in childhood, and we feel much the same way today. But here, you don't have to feel that way. Here, you get to show up just as you are, holding your story in your heart, but ready to heal that heart -- maybe for the first time.

  • 100 Page E-Workbook (PDFs)

    Your E-Workbook comes with 100 pages of PDF files, which you can explore alongside the videos, or later at your own pace. Each page is designed to help further your knowledge and healing on individual topics. From exercises to journal prompts, your workbook is a place for you to safely explore what you really feel and think, as well as what happened to you, and how it has impacted your life today. Pages for each video lesson are linked together, so you know exactly where you are in the course, and the work that accompanies each lesson. For some portions of the workbook, I screen recorded over the lessons, so it feels like we are doing the workbook together, just to help you feel additionally supported in doing your healing work.

  • Guided Meditations & Affirmations

    Each of the Guided Meditations are designed to help soothe and regulate your nervous system, heal your inner child and attachment wounds, and connect to your internalized and loving adult self are included. Healing the trauma that lives in our bodies is imperative to transforming our childhood wounds, and using meditations and affirmations can be incredibly helpful in giving our bodies the experience of feeling safe, something we longed for in childhood and often long for today. MP3 versions of Releasing Anger, Safe Place, Ideal Parent Figure Protocol (modified), relaxing and emotionally regulating scripts and meditations are recorded by me personally. Meditations range from 4 minutes to 45 minutes.

  • Journal Prompts

    Your E-Workbook also includes over 30 journal prompts, specifically designed to deepen your awareness, healing and understanding of how your childhood impacted your life, and how your experience can seep into every area of your life and relationships. Questions around compulsive caretaking, people pleasing, control issues, boundary setting, focusing too much on the outside, internalized shame and guilt, dealing with and identifying your triggers...are just some examples of the content found in your journal work aimed at helping you become your own healing master.

  • Complete Course

    The complete course includes: 74 Lessons, 30 Videos, a 100 page E-Workbook and multiple guided meditations and affirmations (audio files). The course is filled with information, exercises, and journal prompts-- all focused on helping you understand, identify, and heal your trauma and relationships with your Borderline and/or Narcissistic, Emotionally Immature, and/or Toxic Parents or Caregivers. Screen recorded versions of workbook pages are included as well, to encourage additional support and understanding of your work. You had to experience your childhood trauma alone, whether you were an only child or your home was full of other humans. The wounds in your story have been carried by you and you alone, often because it was never safe, possible or acceptable to share what happened to you or because other people (even clinicians) just don't understand the hurts and the complexity of a complicated childhood, with complicated parents. But here, you don't have to walk through your healing alone, and here, your story is validated, real, and understood. I created this course because it happened to me too, and to the hundreds of patients I have helped over the years. Every single topic, exercise and video have been specifically designed for people like us, because we all deserve to be healed and whole.

Course curriculum

Transforming and Healing Childhood Trauma

  • 1

    Welcome to the course!

    • Welcome to Borderline and Narcissistic Parents: Healing and Dealing With Your Trauma

    • Introduction to Course

    • How this Course Works: Videos and Workbook

    • A Little About Me

    • Workbook Part 1

    • Workbook Part 2

    • Workbook Part 3

    • Workbook Part 4
  • 2

    Childhood Trauma and Children with Narcissistic and Borderline Parents

    • Why Children of Parents with Untreated Narcissism and Borderline Need Healing: Signs and Symptoms

    • The ACEs Study and Why It Matters

    • ACES Assessment

    • The Inner Child

    • Wounded Inner Child Questionnaire

    • Workbook Part

  • 3

    Attachment Theory and Your Narcissistic and Borderline Parents: Your Attachment Styles and Caregiver Styles

    • Attachment Theory

    • Introduction to Attachment Theory

    • How Attachment Styles Develop: Caregiver Styles in Attachment Theory

    • Your Narcissistic and Borderline Caregiver Patterns and Your Attachment Wounds: Exercises

    • Exploring Personal Attachment Patterns: Journal Exercise

    • Where Do Attachment Styles Come From? Caregiver Styles In Attachment Theory

    • Your Parents: Narcissistic and Borderline Traits Questionnaire

    • Identifying and Assessing Narcissistic Mothers and Fathers: What It Looks Like

    • Assessment: What It Looks Like When Mothers Have Borderline Personality Disorder

    • Assessment: What It Looks Like When Fathers Have Borderline Personality Disorder
  • 4

    Complex Trauma (CPTSD) and Trauma Responses

    • Complex Trauma and Trauma Responses

    • Identifying CPTSD Symptoms/Trauma Responses/Trauma Triggers

    • Identifying Trauma Responses and Triggers Worksheet pdf
  • 5

    Polyvagal Theory and The Impact of Narcissistic and Borderline Parents on Our Nervous Systems

    • Understanding Polyvagal Theory (Your Nervous System) and The Impact of Parents with BPD and NPD

    • Understanding the Concepts of Polyvagal Theory and Your Nervous System States in Healing From Childhood Trauma

  • 6

    Understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Types

    • Narcissistic Personality Disorder

    • Narcissistic Types

    • Narcissistic Mother Types

    • What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder/What Are Types of NPD?

    • Special Issues In Narcissism for children raised by NPD

    • Common and Special Issues Seen In Children Raised by Narcissistic Parents

    • How Gaslighting, Child Roles and Narcissistic Supply Impact Children of Narcissistic Parents
  • 7

    Understanding Borderline Personality Disorder and Borderline Types

    • Common and Special Issues Seen In Children of Borderline Parents

    • Borderline Personality Disorder

    • What is Borderline Personality Disorder? Criteria and How We Diagnose BPD

    • Types Of Borderline Personality Disorder: Different Presentations and Combinations (Video)

    • Types of Borderline Personality Disorder: Different Presentations of BPD

    • How Children of Parents with Borderline Personality Struggle in their Adult Lives
  • 8

    What Happens to Children Raised By Parents with Narcissistic/Borderline Personality Disorder: Common Struggles We Face As Adults

    • Special Challenges and Issues for Children Raised by Narcissistic and Borderline Parents: (Toxic Shame, Compulsive Caregiving, Isolation, etc)

    • Childhoods: The Development of Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorders

    • Emotional and Relational Issues for Children Of NPD and BPD Parents
  • 9

    Understanding the Similarities and Differences Between Borderline and Narcissism Traits

    • Similarities and Differences between Narcissism and Borderline PD's

    • Similarities and Differences between Narcissistic and Borderline Traits and Disorders
  • 10

    How to Begin Healing: Core Self Interventions and Techniques

    • Introduction to Core Self Help Interventions

    • Core Self Help Interventions Screen Record

    • Relational Cycles: Who Is Responding Now?

    • Identifying and Managing Emotional Flashbacks

    • Polyvagal Techniques To Map and Manage My Nervous System

    • Anger/Guilt/Compulsive Caretaking Worksheet

    • Trauma Bonds/Enmeshment/Hidden Grief and Longing

    • Anger/Guilt/Compulsive Caregiving: Where We Struggle
  • 11

    Healing Focus: Inner Child/Re-Mothering/Ideal Parent

    • Inner child techniques worksheet

    • Healing Your Inner Child

    • Wounded Inner Child Work: Techniques

    • Re-Mothered (Re-Parenting) Protocol Introduction

    • Re-Mothering Protocol Introduction

    • Ideal Parent Exercise: Identifying Qualities (to go alongside IPF script and imagery exercise)

    • The Ideal Parent Figure Protocol and Meditation (Brown/Elliot)
  • 12

    Screen Recording of Workbook

    • Workbook 1

    • Workbook 2

    • Workbook 3
  • 13

    What Kind of Relationship Do You Want to Have with Your Parent?

    • Boundaries, Surface Relationships and No Contact: What Kind of Relationship?

    • Bpd Course Boundaries and No Contact Rules

    • Thank you so much for being here: Final Thoughts on Your Healing Journey
  • 14

    Meditations and Affirmations

    • Safe Place with Dr. Kim Sage (B. Naparstek/Drifting Unicorn Heads)

    • Ideal Parent Figure Protocol Meditation Exercise (Brown/Elliot) Modified Dr. Sage

    • Affirmations with Dr. Kim Sage (B. Naparstek)

    • Integrating Inner Child and Mother (Original WG Defoore, Modified Dr. Sage, Music J. Gallagher)

    • Anger and Forgiveness with Dr. Kim Sage (B. Naparstek/J. Gallagher music)

    • Self Compassion Exercises and Meditations with Dr. Kristin Neff
  • 15

    Bonus Checklist: Common Traits in Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Patterns

    • Checklist: Assessment of Common Traits in Parents with Borderline and Narcissistic Patterns

Instructor(s)

Licensed Psychologist

Dr. Kim Sage

I'm a licensed psychologist specializing in helping people heal childhood trauma, anxiety and relationships, and I work in private practice in Laguna Beach, CA. I hold a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, and a Master's Degree in Marriage, Family and Child Therapy.